5 Biggest Myths About BDSM

We all have some naughty kinky thoughts once in a while.  Some people get off by just fantasising, some like to act, and some love to expand their sexual horizon and try new things. This guide is for those refers to the last group. The sexual adventures types. Let’s face it BDSM has gained a wild reputation, however, in my humble opinion, there are plenty of myths and misconception about the topic.

Let’s clear some of the biggest myths about BDSM.

(if you not familiar what BDSM stands for, before reading any further CLICK HERE for your beginner’s guide)

What are the top 5 biggest myths about BDSM?

#Myth 1: BDSM is a Fetish

BDSM is not a fetish. It’s an erotic behaviour or kink. A fetish is admiring something that not exclusively sexual but has erotic stimulating qualities. For example these days one of the most popular fetishes is foot fetish. Feet aren’t sexy for most people, but for someone with a foot fetish, they can quickly become the object of desire.

#Myth 2: BDSM is uncommon

BDSM might be a taboo, but it’s far from rare. Especially since 2015 when the movie 50 Shades of Grey stormed into our lives. Durex survey revealed that out of five participants one has already been engaged in some form of light bondage during sex. These numbers have shown a respective 37% in the U.K and 35% in the U.S. Not surprisingly the same number is around 65% with people fantasise to try it.

#Myth 3: People are always Submissive or Dominant

In BDSM the fulfilment requires having both roles during the role-play. In these scenes, the Dominant (or Dom/Top/Master) will have the power over the submissive. The Dom can humiliate, punish, control or reward the Submissive (Sub/Slave/Bottom) depending on how much they able to meet the Dom’s expectations. During these power-mind-games, both will have tremendous pleasure, sexual arousal and satisfaction from the power dynamic. A good D/S relationship when both meet their human need. The Dominant being powerful and significant. The submissive being in service and contributing to her/his Master’s pleasure and well-being.

However, bare in mind that if one relationship you act Dominant does not mean you have an overall Dom personality. Usually, dominant people like to stay in control, and submissive people like to obey and serve, so it’s a win-win. Individuals who are enjoying variety could switch from one role to another. These people love the mental challenge to expand their erotic boundaries. This type called: Switch.

#Myth 4: It’s all about abuse and pain

Rightly sadist and masochist can be these cases. However, most kinkers in the BDSM community mainly involved some of bondage and D/S games. BDSM sex should be a situation where you can’t wait to see your partner to give or receive sensations. Create a fun, playful, naughty and erotically exciting sexual playground where people free to express their deepest desires to one other. It never should hurt, unless someone gets turned on by pain.

# Myth 5 It’s all about sex

BDSM is rarely about sex. It might contain the element of sexual activities, but it’s not the payoff. Sometimes you can feel sexually so stimulated by certain scenes, mind-fucking manipulations that it would feel intimate, almost as good as having an orgasm without an actual ejaculation. Some people say it can be better than traditional sex. Only one way to find out if that’s true for you – try some BDSM sex tonight!

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Hope this article helped you to ease your worries about the biggest myths about BDSM and open your mind towards a wider view when it comes becoming a sexual adventurer/ess. 

Willing to give it a try!?

Let me know if you do! I would love to hear all about it!

Comment below, what BDSM scene you fantasise about!

Happy BDSM kinksters!

Xoxo

Alexandra

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