Ultimate Blowjob Guide – How To Give a GREAT Blow Job

How to give a great blow job?

“It’s hard to find great blow job these days” -complained a male friend.
“Mmm, really? I love giving a blow job.” – commented casually.

“Well, women I generally come across, don’t like to do it or simply want to get over it fast.
No joy in it like that. It feels like going to a steakhouse and despite all the juicy meat ordering veggies. You left with craving. Overall odd experience, don’t you think?” – he asked.

This conversation made me think. Research and interviewing my girlfriends started. The results were daunting. Replies were such as: “ I’m unsure if I do it right.” I only do it, so my guy returns the favour” “Oh, no I don’t do that”.

How do you give a blow job? What considered a ‘good blow job according to you’

To my ultimate surprise, many of my grown-ass educated girlfriends had no or inadequate idea what they should do while performing oral sex.

Why do men love getting blow jobs?

All men love getting a blow job. For men, it is almost greater than their sports team (almost!). Most women don’t like giving a blow job. In fact, even if you’re in the minority of women who enjoy giving a head, chances are the women aren’t in the mood to perform blow job as often as the men would like it.

The worse that many relationships have ended because of unsatisfied non-blowed man decides to go outside of the relationship to find oral satisfaction. To be a naughty girl, you must learn how to enjoy giving a blow job in a way that you can also live with. You need to understand the physical and, more importantly, the mental pieces to the blowjob puzzle.

The first blowjob appears in Egyptian burial chambers where one can read on the walls extracts narrating the myth of Osiris. After being murdered and cut into pieces, the goddess Isis tried to put the pieces together but could not find his manhood. Resourcefully, she fashioned one out of clay and used her mouth to ‘breathe life into him’ through it.

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“There is nothing more feminine than a blow-job. You naked on your knees. Your guy with his hand resting on the back of your head. A perfect blowjob confirms some primal nostalgia. It puts the world in balance.” ― Chloe Thurlow

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Yes, if performed well. 

Sucking dick is an art. An art of surrounding. Showing appreciation, love, respect and trust towards men. Putting us women into their hand, which is the natural way. Men love to look down on the women while receiving oral sex and see her as the ‘weak’, small, vulnerable creation who needs his guidance and protectiveness. Giving a blow job can be an ultimate source of pleasure for both.

In ancient times in Chinese history performing oral sex and drinking the nectar of other could lead to longevity.

Many research shows giving a blow job has mutual health benefits for both participants. Next time when you are not feeling to give a blow job to your man, just think of it as a fun way to get a ‘facial yoga’ and earn some bonus points with your man. Giving a head will reduce a risk of breast cancer, high blood pressure, stress and eliminate facial wrinkles. It’s a win-win for both. Get down on it Girl!

Giving a blow job have a poor representation in many women’s brain due to the porn industry. Porn illustrates men just stuffing their dick down to that poor girl. Watching this type of movies women can automatically assume their man will expect them to perform all these skills. Blowjobs can be the second most intimate, sacred and sexually stimulating act (after kissing) and never should be a forced one. Ladies, please have more willingness to explore, and guys remember to be a gentleman and let her set her own limits when it comes to letting the snake down on her throat or just magically tonguing on it.

For sure there are some talented deep-throat queens out there. Women who learnt to take any size and deep-throat without much difficulty. Yes, deep-throating as the most sexual activity is learnable. This article will explore give a  blow job for those who don’t know where to start or what exactly to do while giving a head. Although I firmly believe, it’s not purely women’s technique, but their attitude towards to it has to change.

“Oral sex should always be consensual activity.”

Performing any oral sex should be about giving and receiving pleasure.

how to give a blow jobGuys:

“Want a blowjob?”

Take a step back and let’s step out from expectation.
We are not in a porn scene, we women are feeling, sensitive and sensual human beings with some limitations when comes to oral sex. Please encourage, communicate, listen to feedback and let your women express their desire and limits when it comes to blow you away.

 

How could your lady learn to love oral sex, if she continually needs to gag on your cock? ( unless it’s her things to get turned on)

Yes, some women able to deep-throat, but the majority did not learn or interested in that. It’s just the way it is. Some women (especially if they don’t love oral sex already) will get discouraged by doing it at all if they feel pressured to take it all in. Don’t be shy ladies, express your feelings and desires on how you will like to do.

I love giving long, sensual, passionate blow-jobs. Still get an instant ‘gag reflex’ just by thinking of deep throating, so I make sure no-one push anything down on my throat I’m not comfortable with.

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My sexual well-being and desires deserve top priorities when it comes to giving heads. To give an awesome blow job, I must feel relaxed, desired, wanted, not overruled by any man.

Gentlemen, don’t forget to be a gentleman when it comes to oral sex it will get you further than pushing it. We, women, intend to do the opposite when under pressure.

Let your women explore, decided on set her boundaries and please always be hygienic and shave or trim – if possible.

Bonus tip: Reflection from the other way around: how would you feel if your women would start to shove down a big cucumber or dildo in your mouth?

Mmmmm? Yes, that’s right: you would feel awkward, start gagging, choking on it. Would you feel sexy? Don’t think so. Unless you have an enormous sum of submissive male energy and desire for deep throating cock, but most straight men would feel awkward so does women.

Women might have had some past experiences while giving a head, so it might take the time to get her out the ‘snail house’, just be patient. Women have not got enough confidence when it comes to oral sex.

Basics: Let your women explore your penis, balls, anus area. Let her take control of rhythm, depth and encourage her with sexy or dirty words to get more into it. All these will get her into the mindset she is a goddess and most likely results more pleasurable blowjob experiences for you.

Do not force her anything that she does not like to do. I’m confident if she feels respected, honoured, supported in this exploration she will get more adventures with no time.

Most men are simple when it comes to oral sex. They want to have some release; a blowjob would do almost same for them as sex. As I’m a woman, so don’t know for sure how it feels, but what I heard from male friends: “Oral sex can be same pleasurable experience as intercourse.”

Pumping your mouth feels like a little tight vacuum around their cock, exactly same when they have intercourse.

Man’s penis can be various size, curved, cut or with ‘skin’, so we women need to start by slowly exploring what we got to deal with during oral sex. Examine, stroke, gently pull your man’s magic wand with your hands before taking him in your mouth. Please forget what your Mummy thought you about that putting things in your mouth is bad. I give you permission to go out there and start exploring dick-land.

Great, so we got the history and shame out of the picture, let’s get practical:

How to give a great blow-job

Step 1: Build Anticipation:
As you don’t appreciate the man, who kick the front door and go right in licking you. Men like to be teased as well. Building anticipation will increase his desires to get his dick in your mouth. You can tease him verbally, physically and also with a “push-pull” effect. Give a little, then take it away from him.

Example for building anticipation:
Give him a quick kiss on his lips or neck. Lick or whisper into his ears. Touch his head run your fingers down on his back. Touch him ” accidentally” down there while he is doing something else.

Seduction leading to oral sex or more:
The man is sitting on the sofa watching his favourite game. You walk and sit next to him. Pretend to watch the game for few minutes with him. ( Some reason man who loves football, finds this already a huge turn on, haha don’t know why, but it’s true story they love women who are interested in their ‘game and team’).

Turn to him, kiss his cheek, maybe slide your tongue into his ears little. Whisper some naughty words like: “Oh darling; it’s such a shame the game is on now; we could be doing something much more exciting right now”. Smile, flirt and wink on him. Playing with his senses and mind than get up off the couch and leave him.

If you have a strong sexual connection, that will indicate for him; you want to play. Football game fanatics or if you are new to one other. After licking his ears, kissing his neck. ‘accidentally’ touch his knees, run your hands up in his tights towards his genital areas. At this point, very important do not feel his cock only explore the genital areas, thighs through his shorts.

Just play with your fingers, explore his tights. By then he should have his head messed up enough that signs should start showing through his pants. Haha And the neck movement. Looking the TV and you, can’t make sense what’s going on here. Most likely with a massive hard-on by now 🙂

Step 2: Men are visual creatures
Man as much as they like to do it, they want to see all of it. Want to see how their penis penetrates and get ‘lost’ in your mouth. It’s no exception for this. The psychology in man’s brain when receiving blow-job. In history, the man likes to be the active, dominant and provider. Think of like this next time when you are giving a blowjob to your partner. You surround yourself to his manhood which will harvest the nectar in the end. It’s up to you to drink or spit.

The man likes to stay in control, empowered and look down on you while getting a blow job. It’s the natural way of life. The man is dominant and the women submissive. Man love the visual effect of a blow job. The best position to do blow-job on your man.Kneel in front of him. Place a towel under your knees. Start to explore his penis, stroke with your fingers up and down. Think like you exploring a surprise. Some man has blood-cock, and some have great meatloaf.

I favorize the blood-cocks, which look small and gradually growing in your mouth for stroking and sucking it. Sucking a cock can be a profound and somehow spiritual experience if you let your worries go and just go with the feeling. It’s the total immersion of surrounding your man’s wish and giving your mouth completely to him. Something super sexy in when you are licking with your tongue all the way up and down in his penis, keeping eye contact and examine his reactions.

Great blow jobs and eating a girl’s pussy out can lead to a happy and sexually very satisfying long-term relationship.

Step 3: Girl you must like that lollipop or ice-cream:

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Remember when you were a kid, did you like to eat lollipop or ice-cream? I used to love those sweet and sour lollipops. Lick, suck and take them into my mouth. I also noticed during the years people who can’t eat (lick) and ice-cream usually doesn’t give great head on. Maybe it was in my DNA, don’t think so. It’s all about practising. Practice makes perfect.

Step 4: Let loose girl
You have to show you enjoying yourself. Making sounds while playing with his cock, will instantly turn him on. Don’t overact it, just try to keep it natural. Small deep sensual signs work the best. Find your rhythmic and just breath through the sucking motion with some signs in and out. Same as yoga, the key for good blow-job to find your perfect pace for it. One lick, suck, vacuum here there and here. You could stay longer if you breathe through your nose.

Advance version: Communicate. Tell how much it turns you on while feeling his cock growing in your mouth. When it comes to sex talk, no need to go overboard, just saying: ” I love your big cock” “Love your taste” “Love how big you become in my mouth” would do magic in your man’s confidence and size”

Communication makes it more authentic the blowjob experience for both parties and will create a deeper link between lowers. It will help to boost confidence to explore more exciting areas such as the anus.

5 Step: Keep an eye contact
You might feel intimidated first, but the more you practise, the better you get to keep your eyes focused on him while sucking his dick. Eyes are a reflection of your soul. Your eyes will show him how much you are enjoying his greatest gift.Think like this: it’s a flirt.When you flirt, you look there and away. Playing with his cock. Look at his cook while sucking it. Close your eyes then suddenly open your eyes and look straight into his eyes. It fires up desire. Men love visual effects: seeing his cock in your mouth! Ultimate heaven.

Step 6: Use your hands, both if needed!!!!

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Learning to love BJ, take practice. You are a good actress, so why not have fun with this too. Try to let your boundaries, past limitations go off and use some positive suggestion: “I love sucking cock” “I’m great sucking cock” you will notice with no time you will become an expert in it!

Ask yourself: Do you like your man go down on you? You like it, don’t you? We, women, want to be equal in everything, so this should be equal too. Enjoying yourself while giving a head-on is the biggest turn on for a man. If you into it, they get into it more. Practice and develop your unique style. As no two same cocks, as no two similar pussy.

If nothing works in real life:
Practice at home, use a banana, finger, dildo until you feel like a pro. Build up your confidence and get a real one in your mouth!

Conclusion.

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You’ve got to be passionate and willing to give it a try. (mindset is more important than a perfect technique)

Examine what you are working with. Have your hands run through it. Feel it. Get it wet. Guys like it sloppy, so either you split, or you use coconut oil. Don’t forget it’s not about you. It’s about him. Use your tongues. Keep your mouth tight as possible. It supposes to feel like a vagina. On the top, there is the little spot you should work that with circular motions. If you can’t take it all in, use your hands. Draw circles in your man’s penis cup or up and down motion. Don’t forget it’s a full package deal!

Hope you ladies find this tutorial useful. Comment below if you got any magic tricks tips or you topics you want to learn more. Happy mind-blowing days and please share this with your girlfriends to have a less orally frustrated man and orally confident women out there.

Xoxo 

Alexandra

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