What’s lingam massage is?
Lingam is a Sanskrit word. Lingam broadly translate into “Wand of Light” and refers to the man’s sacred pleasure sword. ( aka the penis) Mastering tantra and sacred sexuality you need to learn to love the lingam.
Being comfortable to touch, feel, masturbate or worship this sacred source of pleasure.
Lingam massage can be performed alone as a masturbation process (for single man) or as couple ritual to raise consciousness and intimacy within the relationship.
Learning to be better in sexuality requires being comfortable, able to adore, worship and caress the most sacred area of your own or partner’s penis. Lingam massage is the fancier phrase of the well spread Western phrase of ‘hand-job’.
However lingam massage not only focus on the penis, but all areas around it, such as the testicles and Sacred spot (aka the prostate). Lingam massage is done with more thoughtful, caress, slow movements to awaken the male energy.
Orgasms are welcomed, but not the primary or end focus of the lingam massage. When you are performing a lingam massage on your partner, you will need to connect with him on a deeper, personal level.
Tune into your Divine Feminine Energy & Connect to the Universal ‘Chi’ and listen to your partner’s feedback in order to be able to give the best lingam massage to him.
If the ‘Chi’ (life force) energy is able to move within the body, he can experience a full body orgasm.
The lingam massage will awaken the male sexual energy. It can be released for pleasure or can be accumulated as sexual energy which can be transform into creativity.
Lots of famous artists use their ‘Chi’ to gather sexual energy and express through their creative work.
How to prepare for a lingam massage?
Step 1: Create an ambience
Make sure the room temperature is pleasant. Lit some candles, oil lamps and build a ‘sacred nest’ for the massage.
Put some towels, pillows, tissues and glass of water next to the ‘nest’. Make him totally relax. Let him unwind and step into the receiving mode.
Step 2: Select an oil
Choose a natural oil which preferably is eatable and melts easily.
Some people love fragrance, and some don’t. Double check with your partner their preference and also if they got any allergies. I love using coconut oil or grape seeds oil.
Both oils are liquid enough to spread well, tasty and feel fantastic on the skin for both partners.
Step 3: Put some music
Music will increase meditative state for him and help to relax more.
How to do a lingam massage?
Step 1: Encourage him to Relax & Breath
The man lies on his back. Place a pillow under his head so he can look up to you. It’s important if he needs to see you, he can.
Remind the man to take a few deep breathe and sink into meditative, mindful state and relax his body. You can place a pillow under his hip too so that the lingam area will be more accessible.
Step 2: Sync your breathing with ‘Bliss Breathing.’
The main difference in traditional sex and Tantra is the way of breathing. Syncing your breath with your partner will channel and connect all your chakras and create a sacred life energy transformation between the bodies.
How to do Bliss breathing: Inhale deeply, feel the arousing male sexual energy of your partner, exhale and send love towards him.
Continue breathing this way during the massage. It will help both to stay present, bring more loving care, awareness and unity in the overall body, mind and spirit level.
Step 3: Apply the Massage Oil onto his Body
Before touching his ‘sacred wand’. Spend some time and gently massage his legs, abdomen, thighs, chest, nipples, etc., to get him completely relaxed.
Man’s natural state is the ‘doing’, task orientated ( even in bed) so allow him some time to get into the ‘receiving mode’.
Step 4: Caress the Areas Around the Penis
Pour some oil onto your hands and start massaging the shaft of the penis and testicles.
Massage the area between the balls and anus. Lift the balls up. Squeeze them little and stroke them gently. Vary pressure of stroking, add some Lomi Lomi moves.
You can use one hand directly on his penis while your other hand exploring his balls. Both hands can run up and down on his shaft.
If you connected to your partner energetically, you could just follow your intuition what would feel the best for him in that precious moment.
Step 5: Massage the Shaft
This part of the lingam has several nerve endings. The nerves all are connected with other parts of the body. Press the shaft gently. Run your fingers in a circular motion around the top, squeeze gently and press down on edge.
The important to keep your hands moving and don’t get discouraged if he goes soft. It’s natural in tantra.
Soft – hard – soft like waves of body sensations reaching him and giving him more pleasure inside than just in the regular erection.
His lingam will come hard again when it needs to be ready and hard.
Step 6: Stimulate external the ‘Sacred Spot.’
Gently run your fingers through the ‘back door’ aka ( sacred spot). Check his reaction for a free pass or just indoor look around.
Some man loves prostate stimulation, and some will be sick of even the thought of having something up in their ass.
Be patient, knock, sniff around the door and see what he likes.
Step 7: Don’t let him climax (just yet!)
If you feel the man is getting close to ejaculation, stop the lingam’s stimulation. Allowing the penis to soften a little before restarting the lingam massage again. Do this several times. Let him come close to ejaculation, and then back off. It is important to remember that the goal is not orgasm in and of itself.
Men can learn the art of ejaculatory mastery and control by coming close to ejaculation and then backing off on the stimulation. Deep breathing is key here and will soften the urge to ejaculate.
Eventually, ejaculatory mastery will allow you to make love as long as you want and you can become multi-orgasmic without losing a drop of semen.
Orgasm and ejaculation are two different responses that you can learn to separate.
The result is an expanded and extraordinary sex life.
Step 8: Stimulate internal the ‘Sacred Spot.’
Massage the male’s ‘Sacred Spot’ (prostate). There is a small spot (about a size of a pea) midway between the testicles and anus. Be gentle and push inward.
He will feel the pressure deep inside, and it may be uncomfortable at first. Eventually, as this area is worked on and softened, he will be able to expand his orgasms and master ejaculatory control. You can massage his Lingam with your right hand and press his Sacred Spot with your left hand.
Try pushing in on this spot when he nears ejaculation. The man may have strong emotions come up during access to the Sacred Spot. Be the best friend and healer he could have at that moment. You, the giver, are creating a place of trust and intimacy.
Step 9: Ending the massage
Lingam massage can be done by itself, in this case, put a stop to the massage by letting him ejaculate. Shine his true male sexual light through his wand. It will help to create more conscious, loving and peace within him.
If he is practising semen retention you can move straight into a yoni massage or intercourse. Before starting any lingam massage agree on the ending.